When is Dec Hols Coming??

Yes, I'm looking forward to holidays already! Away from work, commitments, "burdens".... and just to be with my Darling. Oh dear! Do I sound like I'm obsessed with my Darling? Though married, I find myself missing him still... why, oh why?? :-{

Going Korea for Part 2 of our honeymoon....sounds good, eh?? :-] It's gonna be really cold (winter) and looking at the intinerary, it's gonna be real fun! With horseriding, theme parks, submarine ride...and a visit to Teddy Bear Museum!! Yeah! When is Dec coming? Counting down....

Fav Song of the Moment!!

Have you watched Music & Lyrics, featuring Hugh Grant (my fav actor!) and Drew Barrymore? Grant was a song composer who was trying very hard to write a song (to make a comeback) for the popular singer of the time and Barrymore was his temp part-time domestic helper. In a strange way, Barrymore helped him start the first few lines of his new song and he was after her to help complete the song...Together, they completed the song and started their love story too! Well, here's the song! Enjoy!

[Nothing great. Tho simple, it has a cheery & sweet tune to it ;)]

Maintaining Relationships

Today I met a couple of friends for lunch. Had Japanese buffet @ Mirama Hotel. Fantastic! Had all the sashimi I could! Hahahaha....

These two were my colleagues. One is currently in another school, the other 'enjoying' her leave. I'm so glad to have these two friends. It's not easy for me to maintain friendships, I realised over the years. It's always been friends looking for me, asking me out. Guess I'm just too busy living my own life to fork out time to meet friends and keep in touch. I'm not quite a 'good' friend to have, eh?

Heard this from another friend just the past week - "having a meal with people is an intimate thing to do because you build bond thru' having meals together." How true! We have meals with our family and close/loved ones. It's a great way to be in touch, isn't it? I've always enjoyed having lunch with these two friends when we were colleagues. Over the past year, my two friends and I had been building our friendship over lunches. Well, i was driven around and had free lunches most of the time! Of course I enjoyed it! Hahaha... (I did foot the bill, a couple of times ;)

Catching up over lunch today was great! I miss having lunch with them, especially the lady who has become like an elder sister. To think that I was supposed to be her buddy when she first came to school! Hahaha.... Looking forward to having her back in school again.... my lunch kaki, my listening ear, and not forgetting, she's my Darling's advocate! Hahahaha..... (she'd always chide me for being petty and never fail to remind me how patient and understanding, etc my Darling is....) (Yes, sister, I do know ;)

Essence of Life

When I was packing and moving my stuff to my new home, I came across this old notepad which I bought when I first became a teacher. In it, there is this poem I wrote...

Life
Often, we wondered the meaning of life
We searched thru' universe
We looked thru' man
Experienced ups and downs as we journeyed along
Only to realise that the essence of life is living itself

What's Next?

When you're young, people ask "any boyfriend yet?". By the time you have one, the next question is "when are you getting married?". Soon, after you're married, they will ask "when are you going to have a baby?". Oh, don't be mistaken, no one has asked me that question...yet.

Just read Juliet's blog and she was lamenting (initially) how guilty she was when Joy asked why Mummy does not play with her while Daddy does. Well, last week, I was thinking about the "next phase" of marriage - having a baby. That's supposed to be the natural process, the next thing to do, the other aspect to complete a family...isn't it? Or is it?

You see, if I or my Darling has little time for oneself and for each other, how can we afford the time for our little one? Unlike Juliet, I don't mind not having my own space (of course need the personal space now and then), but I do mind not having my Darling's attention and time. So, at this moment, I don't think I'm ready to share my Darling yet...

(Got the hint??)

The Essence of Being Married

These days, I've been thinking about what's the essence of being married. Does it only mean seeing each other daily? Or taking care of each other's needs? Or as like the serious, loving vows we made "to hold for riches or poor, health or sickness"?

Being married is not as romantic compared to while dating. Being married is seeing each other when you awake (oh, bad breath!), living with each other's habits (hey, squeeze the toothpaste like I do!), accepting each other's weaknesses and bearing with each other's nonsense at times and staying in same room, even when you feel like running far away from that beloved person you vow to behold and love "till death do us part".

There's a lot more to be learnt about marriage.... What's your thots about the essence of marriage? Of being married?

Keeping In Touch

Today, during lunch, I decided to browse thru' my cousins' blogs. It's actually a great way to keep in touch with what's going on in each other's lives. We have always been very close, with Da Jie (Juliet) leading us. She started our yearly gathering when... I think I was in Poly. With everyone in tow, (youngest - Ah 9, in pri sch, I think), she would bring us to the Zoo, museum, dinner @ restaurant, etc. We'd make it a point to have an outing every year. Our granny used to be so proud of us, cos we made the efffort to stay close with one another, even though we didnt stay near one another. She was worried that one day when she was gone, we'd all disperse too. Well, it's been almost 6 years since Ah Ma left us. Though nowadays, we don't really have an outing anymore, we still make it a point to meet for dinner, as regularly as we can and also to gather at someone's home now and then. Now, we're the ones organising these makan sessions, not so much of our parents.

Cousins, I truly miss those times when each family prepared a dish and we'd all pack into our vehicles and meet @ a certain beach or park and we'd have a makan session all day long. The adults would chat while we would cycle or roam around! That was such fun! Now, we see our younger generation running around, while the ah yi(s) and jiu jiu(s) playing with them. If only we could be young and carefree again...

Ju, when's our crab session???

Life as a Mrs....

It's 2 weeks since I've become "Mrs Tan". Still adjusting to my new status but getting used to it. Staying together isn't exactly what I thought it would be (tho, i've more or less prepared). Not so much of getting used to the living environment or even with another person...but more of thinking I could see my Darling more now that we're staying under the same roof. Due to our busy schedule, we're more or less like before... just that now I don't have to wait for him to SMS me when he's home, cos I'll be home waiting for him or him waiting for me. I realised that yes, I do miss him even when I get to see him daily.

I was pleased and happy when my Darling dated me last Fri. We went to a Korean restaurant at Square 2, Novena. We ordered a set dinner for 2. Look at the spread we had! Yummy!! The ginseng chicken soup with glutinous rice was fantastic! We had a very full meal! Hahaha! It's reasonably priced, so go for it!

That aside, staying at a new place, having a new lifestyle, etc actually gives me a sense of excitement. It's a good change of environment. Maybe will soon get used to it and become bored? Like how it's like when moved into a new house? Hmm...